I once read somewhere that smiling at someone was like blowing them a kiss from your soul. What a lovely thought, but how do we do that with masks pulled tight over our smile-makers.
I want to blow kisses from my soul. I yearn to catch kisses blown my way from other souls too.
Here we are in a pandemic — still. How can we send these kisses from our souls through layers of cloth?
Smile with your eyes, of course. Smize. It’s a thing.
assume a playful or alluring expression of the eyes.
“I just need to learn how to smize”
a playful or alluring expression of the eyes.
“she still has plenty of time to perfect her smize”
Perfecting the smize started as a trick models used for better headshots, but that’s different. That was a fake smile made to look more sincere. I’m looking for a way to send kisses from my soul, not pretend to be enjoying myself.
Smizing through a mask takes more effort. You want to give it all you’ve got. Really feel your smile pour out through your eyes. That also means looking people in the eye. Gasp! I know, it’s weird after all this time.
I was bagging my own groceries while on another exciting trip to the grocery store last week. I never in my wildest dreams imagined I’d so enjoy grocery shopping as much as I do during this pandemic. It’s the only time I get to mingle amongst other humans, albeit 6 feet apart. It’s a thrill. I’m at once attracted to and repelled by the humans I see at the grocery store.
Anyway, as I was bagging my groceries, I noticed an adorable too-young-for-a-mask toddler in her mother's cart at the next til over. I caught her watching me. As I always do with babies, I gave her a big smile.
At my age, when I smile big, my eyes squinch a little and lines form all over my face. She may not have seen my toothy grin or the lines on my face behind my mask, but she knew I was smiling and rewarded me with a generous toddler grin right back at me. It was heaven. Kisses from our souls.
There is a famous and often-quoted passage believed to have originated from the writings of Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch about the value of a smile:
“A SMILE costs nothing, but gives much.
It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he can not be made rich by it.
A smile creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign of friendship. It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature’s best antidote for trouble.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.”
I love that. Each line made me smile.
Smiling is magical. Here are some other beautiful ways I found to describe a smile:
- natures facelift
- a way of opening your heart
- the key that fits everyone's heart
- free therapy
- Beauty's sword
- happiness found right under your nose
- the beginning of love
- a curve that sets everything straight
- a way of paying it forward
- one of the best beauty remedies
- a facelift in everyone's price range
- the universal language of kindness.
So what if a mask is hiding your smile, the energy behind it is still perceivable. Don’t be stingy with your smiles because you don’t think anyone can see it. They can feel it. You can feel it.
Have you noticed how impossible it is to stay sad or mad when you smile? Even when a smile is forced to start with, somehow the physical act of pulling our lips up into a grin softens our mood. Before you know it, the smile is genuine.
We’re living in a strange time. Dealing with a worldwide health crisis — the pandemic, worrying about democracy and climate change and how we’ll pay our bills. There is so much going on. And so much not going on.
Smiling won’t solve all our problems, but it can sure help lighten the mood. Offering a smile to everyone we see is the one gift we can all afford.
Be on the lookout and get ready to catch a kiss blown from another soul because I know all our souls ache for the exchange. Smile at each other. It’s the closest thing to a hug we can experience right now.
Let your smile fill up your Facetime and Zoom screens. When masked up and out in public, don’t forget to pucker up and open wide the windows to your soul, your eyes. Blow kisses from your soul to everyone you see by offering a generous smile. We’ll all feel better because of it, I promise.